My Story

I grew up as an overweight kid. In elementary school, I was called names by classmates - at around 9 years old, I was told that I should go on Jenny Craig because I was so fat. I can remember days when I would come home and ask my mom if I was fat. She would always tell me “no” like a loving mom would. So, I grew up thinking I was just “big boned”. My best friend for most of my childhood was extremely thin and could always eat whatever she wanted. Being the fat friend carried me through my childhood and most of my young adult life.


It wasn’t until I hit high school that I finally got enough courage to wear a tank top. Before that, I would never wear any shirt without sleeves because I was so embarrassed of my arms. Throughout middle school, I had this black sweater that I would constantly wear because I thought it disguised and hid the fat. On 100 degree days, I would tell everyone I wasn’t hot because I didn’t want to take it off. I’d be sweating my ass off… but would rather sweat than have to show my body for what it was. Little did I know, clothes don’t hide fat.

Falling into the misconception that I was just meant to be fat for the rest of my life and that I was simply “built big”, I conceded to the idea that I COULDN’T be one of those fit or thin girls. I mean, I had never been that way any other time in my life so I just didn’t think it was possible. It wasn’t until after graduating with my Bachelors of Science that I decided to really take control of my life.

I can remember the night that I finally made the decision to really lose weight and get into shape. I was at a friend’s party and was drinking like usual. I kept complaining about how big I was and that Xavi (my now fiancĂ©) deserved better than me. I was constantly being told what a pretty face I had - which by the way, is such a back handed compliment when I could always tell they felt sorry for how overweight I was. It’s like, “well if you just lost weight you would be a REAL knockout!”…. back to the party -  I kept going on and on – drinking and feeling sorry for myself. I woke up the next morning completely embarrassed and decided that that was NEVER going to be me again. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I decided to take control of my life and lose weight. I was tired of feeling sorry for myself and wanted more. I had been off and on with losing maybe 10 lbs and then gaining it back and being in and out of a gym for months by this point so my mindset really had to change – like a light switch, I decided to go full force. I started by setting a goal of losing 60lbs and getting down from 234lbs to 175lbs. This would be the smallest I had really ever been. I changed my diet to include healthy food and cut out processed foods and alcohol. It was really hard going out with friends and not being able to eat or drink what they were. But, the decision was made and I was going to stick with it. I worked out 5-6 times a week and I started out by walking a 5 mile trail near my house. Eventually I asked Xavi for a gym pass for my birthday.(( Side note: He was (and still is) one of my biggest supporters. He always tells me I am beautiful no matter what size I am and I am extremely grateful for that)) I lost about 30lbs and then hit a plateau.

At this point, I started working out with a trainer with my sisters and began to count calories using the app LoseIt! Counting calories really clued me in to how much I was ACTUALLY eating. Even huge portions of healthy food can slow down your progress! When I hit 175lbs I was ecstatic. Working out and eating right was hard work, but trust me, it definitely isn’t as hard as hating your body as well as yourself. I stayed at 175lbs for awhile. My doctor told me I looked healthy and was in good shape so I enjoyed that moment for awhile before I decided I wanted to lose more. When I finally hit 145lbs, I knew I was at the right weight for me. After all, I did not want to be too thin, I wanted to be fit and healthy!

Don’t get me wrong, it was NOT an easy journey. I was addicted to food before I started out. Sometimes I would eat two dinners and I always went to sleep and woke up thinking about food and what I was going to eat. That addiction is still always taunting me and it really takes a lot to control it. While losing weight, I was still extremely self conscious and embarrassed of how I looked. It took me a long time to get into a gym because of the anxiety of having other people (who were always extremely fit in my head) watch me work out. For example, if I would drive to the gym and the parking lot was too full, I would drive home because I thought there were too many people inside. My anxiety was really hard to control at times. But I knew what I really wanted and eventually I would always get back in the gym.

This whole journey of losing weight was extremely hard and incredibly lonely and hopeless at points. Hitting plateaus can be very discouraging, but if you keep pushing, you will achieve your goals. Think of it this way, you can give up and keep living the life you have (being unhappy, self conscious, and hating yourself) OR you can take it one day at a time and keep going. Try to remember to ALWAYS take it day by day and try your best… believe me, those days add up!

 Overall, I am extremely proud of myself and overwhelmed by how many people I now get to support in their own weight loss. There’s that quote by Mark Twain that states “There are two important days in your life; the day you are born and the day you find out why”. Well, I now know why I was born – I was born to help people like myself who want to get fit, healthy, and ((most importantly)) happy.


Thank you for your continued support and encouragement. With hard work and dedication, anything is possible!



*****UPDATE! UPDATE! UPDATE!*****

I feel like so many new ventures have happened lately that I just need to write a new section of My Story =)

My journey has now reached just over 2 1/2 years. I have kept the weight off for over a year and I continue to make progress each day, week, & month! I recently ran my first HALF MARATHON (yeah crazy right?!) and I finished it feeling like a champion. I couldn't have asked for a better goal and I was so incredibly blessed to be able to finish one this past October (2013). I set my goal for better than 2.5 hours and I achieved my goal when I finished at 2 hours and 18 minutes. I was so happy I had to hold back my tears while crossing the finish line. 

Currently, I am so excited to be working towards my newest goal of stepping on to the stage to compete in my first figure competition!!! Ahh that is so SCARY just thinking about it!!! I couldn't have ever imagined in my wildest dreams that I would be doing anything like this. What a crazy journey it has been so far, I know it is only going to get CRAZIER!!! Right now, my focus has switched from cardio and long runs to strictly lifting heavy things with a couple HIIT sessions a week.



I will keep you updated on my progress!!! =D

17 comments:

  1. Wow Kelly! Your story is absolutely amazing! I couldn't be more happier for you. It is great how hard you've worked for yourself and how you are helping and inspiring many others, including myself =). And the part where you mentioned, "[Xavi] was (and still is) one of my biggest supporters. He always tells me I am beautiful no matter what size I am and I am extremely grateful for that."....that part made me all AWWWWWWW! MY COUSIN IS SO AWESOME! I love that he is with you and that you have each other. He's a great guy...love that group of cousins! And we're all thrilled to have you join the Valdez clan =). Keep up the great work girl! See you soon!

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  2. Wow! I'm in tears. Your story is truly amazing and has hit home. I have been following you on IG and reading your story was awesome! Thank you so much for sharing and inspiring us all :)

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  3. This story is my life to a T. I was the fat kid who everyone made fun of. I was the fat girl with the skinny and beautiful best friend. I had a huge eating addiction and always thought about food and hid my eating habits. I was so unhappy. Sometimes I get so caught in up in thinking I am alone in this and no one else knows what it was like for me, but you do, and so do many others. I am so glad I found your IG because you have become a huge inspiration to me to keep going on my journey to be the fittest, healthiest person I can be, and to help and motivate others just like you do. Thank you.

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  4. thanks for writing this. i feel like i could have written it myself. take care.

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  5. This sounds so much like me, and I'm really inspired to take control.. Thank you Kelly!!!

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  6. Love your story, Doll!! I follow you on Instagram. You are motivational and inspiring. Keep shining!

    XO

    Hannah

    Instagram --> @luvfithealth

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  7. Your story moves me because it's so similar to mine. We have a lot in common and I am always working on improving and achieving as well. I also started a blog similar to yours!! We are awesome :) I am featuring you on my instagram page today, thanks for letting me post about you! I'm following you on my personal page, @courtneyebw, but will post it on my transformations page, @afireworkinprogress, where I am trying to feature people like us doing it the RIGHT way. We've gotta spread the word!! I felt so desperate and helpless for so long. It took me years to get my life on track. It helps to stay on track knowing others are on the same path. So awesome!!

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  8. Very cool. This is the first actual weight loss blog that I like. You're story is awesome and I can relate. Thanks!!!

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  9. I love the realism you give. Weight loss isn't easy when you have an addiction and not many magazine success stories state that! Thank You!

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  10. Your story is awesome and a true inspiration for anyone that loses hope. I love when someone changes their life and decides that they deserve better. I wish you all the best!

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  11. Hey! I'm from Mexico, I saw your photo on Instagram, at first I could not believe it was you, but after reading this..Wow! It's really awesome you did all this, you're now my inspiration. Congratulations!!!

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  12. Reading this I swear your talking about me, I'm down 50 pounds but still have a ways to go. Your success pumps me up I'm so happy you share your story.

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  13. What a great read. I started following you on instagram. I love others that inspire. I love how proud of yourself you are! YOU SHOULD BE! Keep it up mama ;)

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  14. Hi Kelly,

    I find myself to have a very similar situation as yours. I want to lose 60 pounds if not more. You have really inspired me and I just starting out on my journey. Do you recommend that I only start out with cardio and eating clean or should I incorporate weight training with my routine as well. Any feedback you are willing to give me would be amazing.

    Thanks so much for being an inspiration and sharing your journey.

    Sincerely,
    Tanya

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  15. Thank u so much for sharing your story! i am a young girl of 16years old and i am trying to acheive the same thing u did the healthiest way i can (no crazy diets) and i can honestly tell u that this story touched me, it motivates me!
    thank u soo much! keep going strong <3
    loads of love from Sweden!

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  16. You're the best.... I have so much admiration for you babe. You deserve every amazing bit of happiness. ♥

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  17. Wow this is amazing. Very inspiring... I cam across you on instagram and am amazed. I hope to make my on journey after many failed attempts. Thanks for the motivation!

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